A Valentine Gift

By Ann Klein based on imagery of Hedy Schiefler and Imago Couple’s therapy

The couple sat face to face
Holding hands
Looking into each other’s eyes
Studying the landscape of the other’s face
With new discoveries
In the ‘sacred space’ between them

Taking long, deep breaths
Thinking of the kindnesses each has received from the other
Filling the ‘sacred space’ with positive, nurturing energy

The host inviting their partner to visit
The visitor accepting with curiosity
Crossing the bridge to where their partner lives
Listening with understanding and compassion
Keeping safe the ‘sacred space’

And so the visits continue back and forth
To open up to new ideas
To see each other in new ways
Honoring each other’s differences
The miracle of ‘connection’
In the ‘sacred space’ between them

Giving gifts of kindness
Sharing words of love
Each helping the other to grow
In the ‘sacred space’ between them.


Ann Klein – Columbia Marriage and Relationship Counseling teaching couples effective communication skills to resolve conflicts, reestablish intimacy, and restore caring and connection in their relationships.

The ‘Encounter’ Between Couples in a Relationship

I will share with you a special YouTube video by Hedy Schliefer, one of my teachers. This video runs about 20 minutes, so sit back and enjoy!

The video is about the ‘meeting, the encounter’ in the ‘relationship space’ between a couple.

From Hedy Schleifer: “My life’s work has crystalized into one single overarching idea. It is the idea of the three invisible connectors: the space, the bridge and the encounter. When people make these three invisible connectors visible in their lives, and embrace them fully, the “miracle” of connection happens. The space is the relational space “between” people. In order to honor that space, one must cross the bridge, and bring one’s full and authentic presence to the world of the “other.” And in doing so, the perfect conditions are established to create a true “meeting.”

Video:

With permission from Hedy Schleifer.